What About The Stressed Men? Guest Post



In response to my post about 7 reasons your wife is so stressed all the time, this introspective male poster offers a new perspective. We work all week at stressful jobs. Our wives want us to take over most of their stressful job of being a mom when the weekend comes and give her time to decompress with a pedicure alone or trip to the mall or whatever. Then all of a sudden it is Sunday night and we are in front of our laptops getting ready for the week. There is no downtime at all for many of us. We do our stressful job all week then take over our wives’ stressful jobs on the weekend. We work stressful jobs because you are right, men and women are judged differently: We are judged on the house we can afford to provide, not whether or not it’s clean. We are judged on the school we can afford to send our kids to, not whether they show up on time and are presentable and fit in. We are judged on the family vacation we can provide, the car our wives drive, etc etc. Lack of sex is always traced back to the husband not meeting emotional needs of the wife. Just like a husband needs to be in tune with his wife’s emotions, a wife has to be in tune with a husbands physical needs. The more days that pass since we had REAL sex, with ALL clothes removed (not just pull jeans/panties down and hurry up) the more difficult it is for us to be in tune with her emotions and that is almost never acknowledged. Even if a wife is stressed, its not an excuse. It has to be a two way street, or yin and yang, or equivalent. It cannot fall solely on the husband to be able to respond emotionally no matter what.