How do narcissists behave? Red flags in relationships



A narcissist is a personality type that characterizes a person who is overly self-focused. Despite the fact that the word has acquired a negative connotation, narcissism is not always a pathology. In its healthy form, it represents the ability to see and recognize one’s strengths, accept achievements, set personal boundaries, and appreciate what one already has. Problems begin when one’s own needs are perceived as exclusive, and other people are perceived as a way to achieve them. A relationship with such a person is a one-sided game; it is detrimental to self-esteem. You are perceived as a servant, and not as a separate person with your own feelings and interests. This is why it is important to know the signs that indicate you are a narcissist.The narcissist sets a rapid pace for the development of relationships, but not through gradually developing trust and shared experiences, but by applying pressure.He likes to talk about how others treated him badly, what difficult trials he went through. His entourage sympathizes with him for his difficult fate and… is not careful. This is how the narcissist gains trust.The feelings that the narcissist hides inside himself are shame, depression and emptiness. To disguise them, it is vital to receive external attention. He is charismatic, charming, open, takes care of himself, and is surrounded by a large company. But with superficial connections, at the hint of a deep connection, the narcissist runs away so as not to receive a new injury.90% — conversations about him, 10% — about you, if you are lucky. Being the topic of conversation for a narcissist is a huge source of satisfaction.The narcissist does not admit his mistakes. Others are to blame for his troubles. In a relationship with him, you take a lot of blame and responsibility in quarrels, you are the first to resolve conflicts, you are the first to apologize.