8 Traits of Emotionally Intelligent People




We don’t struggle with emotions because something’s wrong with us; we struggle with them because we don’t understand how they work.And yet, even though very few of us are ever taught how emotions work, we assume something’s wrong or defective in us when we struggle to manage them! On the other hand, when people are able to work with their painful emotions in a healthy way it’s usually a sign that they understand how emotions actually work.If you want to improve your own emotional intelligence, try to build these 8 traits of emotionally intelligent people.

If you’re like most people, you might say “Oh, those are negative emotions.” But this is actually not a very accurate description. Because here’s the thing:Emotions are not bad or negative in a moral sense because you can’t control them directly. No one gets put in prison for feeling angry because you can’t control your anger, only your actions.Similarly, emotions are not bad or negative in a safety sense because they’re not actually dangerous. No matter how sad you get, your sadness is not going to hurt you.In other words, emotionally intelligent people don’t treat painful emotions as threats or signs of bad character. Instead, they view their emotions —…