3 Ways Divorce Changed Me for the Better




We are just about to turn 40 and everyone we know is married. She and I have been friends since our 20s and as couples, we do a lot together.She’s shocked by my announcement.Little did I know, that I should have carried through immediately.It was the second time I had wanted to leave my husband.The first time was after eight years of marriage. I took our boys and moved in with my sister. I foolishly returned after nearly a month. My husband promised to go to marriage counseling.He began to treat me better. I resisted. I wasn’t going to make the same mistake a second time. I didn’t think I would ever feel the same way about him. But then I saw how it was affecting him. He was only 41 but his hair began thinning.

The no-nonsense ballsier younger me was about to exit the building.The girl who didn’t think twice about leaving after eight years and the woman who didn’t think twice about leaving at 40 was retreating. I just didn’t know it yet.The mother whose children were getting older.The woman who had stayed too long now found divorce more traumatizing.In my younger years, I felt completely independent. I wasn’t at all afraid of starting over on my own. I didn’t see it as breaking up a family. I saw it as a young mother doing what she needed to do to raise her…